BY: B. Keith Plunkett @Keithplunkett
Earlier this week, homosexual Mississippians descended on clerk’s offices across the state to apply for marriage licenses. The stunt was organized by a liberal organization calling itself the Campaign for Southern Equality. The group is out of Asheville, North Carolina and is intent on pushing for “marriage equality” for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. They knew full well the people they were egging on to go through with the request wouldn’t be issued a license, and said as much in comments to the media. That was the point.
It’s impossible for someone to fully understand the life experiences of another person no matter how well you think you know them. There is simply too much going on in that gray matter between someones ears that affects how we individually feel, think and react.
There is no way I can know if my friendships and connections with people of different backgrounds is above or below average in terms of the “normal” experience–and I’m unaware of a standard definition of what the “normal” experience is anyway. What I can say is I have, what seems to me, a large number of friends and family of varied backgrounds, experiences and opinions. I’ve had the good fortune of traveling quite a bit across Mississippi and the country and meeting many people. As such, I have met and know a number of people–friends, family, and family of friends–who are gay.
These are people in some cases who I speak to regularly with no ill-will or unease, no judgement and no similar feelings of the same in return. I have attended dinner parties, family reunions and cookouts with them. I have grown up with them. I have done business, and trusted their judgement in many and varied ways. I won’t judge them. I don’t believe it is my place to do so. I know their lifestyle already must bring them a great deal of stress. After all, in today’s world why would anyone “choose” to be gay?
As a conservative I believe the less government intrudes in peoples lives, then the better off we all are. If you have read some of what I have written over the past few years then you know I am an unapologetic defender of that belief. I am also an unapologetic believer in Christ, and the promise that this world, this experience, is not the end-all and be-all. I know there is More.
I know it is not thought to be trendy these days to couple the issues of Faith and Politics. But, the Truth as I know it, that the gift and fundamental human right of free-will comes from God, informs my political belief. No government or group should ever be allowed to inject a collective man-made idea of what is and is not acceptable into that equation. It is up to me, my God and my conscience. In short, I will never accept anything based solely on the fact that someone else told me I had to. That is my idea of freedom.
I could get off in the weeds quickly on the subject of personal freedom and responsibility, so I’ll leave it at that.
As I read of the publicity stunt I couldn’t help but think about the political ramifications and wonder why some in our state would subject themselves to it for the sake of being turned down at the behest of an outside political group.
The question I have of my liberal friends on the subject–those that support the “legal” recognition of gay marriage as equal– is this:
Despite where one falls in the more government vs. more freedom debate, and despite whether one believes in God or not, how can same-sex marriage ever truly be equal?
The conclusion I come to is that it can’t. No matter what mere mortals say, no matter what institutions men concoct and devise, gay marriage will never be equal to the marriage between a man and a woman.
Contrary to what some may say to that statement, it is not an assault on anyone. It is not an attempt at forcing on others the status of “second class citizen.” It is a basic truth.
The argument for “marriage equality” has sometimes veered into discussions of rates of divorce and the status of modern marriage between heterosexual couples. But, it’s difficult to understand how human flaws that have deteriorated relationships between married men and women somehow make a homosexual marriage equal or more acceptable. That seems a bit like knocking someone down to make yourself feel better. All humans are flawed. We all have the ability to be abusive and self-serving.
Marriage is not a government institution. It is, despite the flaws of those who enter into it, a fundamental building block of humanity itself. It is the basic foundation of our very existence. Ultimately, even those who enter into a same-sex relationship must come to the same conclusion. In their heart of hearts they know this to be true. Because they too have a Mother and a Father, otherwise they would not exist.
Neither governments nor society can define marriage. Marriage is already defined. It is as basic a truth as the sun, the moon and the stars. It is as natural an occurrence as the tides and the seasons. It predates and preempts any government ever devised or established. It is the first ever and most basic “social contract”.
Mankind is powerless to redefine it no matter what societal movements exist to convince us otherwise.
I wish those who think otherwise well. I don’t wish harm on anyone because of their sexual orientation or political beliefs. I hope they will afford me that same consideration.
So, the same-sex marriage political battles will rage on, defenders of “traditional marriage” will attempt defensive legalities in the halls of pearly-domed capitols, and the high-and-mighty political rhetoric will continue to soar from both sides of this futile argument.
It doesn’t change the fact, the truth, that it is all a great deal of noise for nothing.
Society, governments, politicians and “social justice” groups can no more change the definition of marriage, nor defend it against a perceived “enemy”, than remove the sun from the sky.
It doesn’t make a difference who yells loudest. Truth is truth. It is concrete and unchangeable for all time, no matter what any man or woman may decide, or want others to believe.
About Keith: Keith Plunkett has worked on communications issues with a range of public officials from aldermen to Congressmen, and a variety of businesses, governmental agencies and non-profits. He serves or has served as a board member of several non-profit, civic and political organizations. Contact him by going to HorizonMediaMarketing.com or follow him on Twitter @Keithplunkett
- The Slippery Slope to Polygamy and Incest (prospect.org)
- Marriage Equality Supporters Launch $2 Million Campaign in Illinois (slowlyboiledfrog.com)
- Gay marriage is becoming law without the help of candlelit vigils, or Stonewall | Benjamin Cohen (guardian.co.uk)